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I'm in a tough situation here and could use some advice. My W has really begun to warm up to me since I began DB'ing. Things have been going well given our circumstances. Our communication has been great, we're spending more time together, and I think I sense a change of heart in her feelings for me. This began to come about because of a key thing I said to her that might be backfiring. I told her she can do what she needs to do to be happy and I'll be supportive. Pretty sure that gave her the OK to keep seeing OM.
We went on for several weeks feeling like we were making good progress with eachother but also knowing that she was still seeing OM. Last week I began to feel like OM was fading away and it made me very happy. Unfortunately, I found out she had gone to see him over the weekend and it hurt. I had a bad day Monday when I found out and sent her an e-mail saying that I would be willing to wait to work things out with her but it hurts me that she is still seeing OM. There was no anger or harsh words in the message just me trying to say you can't have your cake and eat it too.
Since I wrote that e-mail my W has backed off from me big time compared to where we were for the last few weeks. If you follow the link at the top of the page and read my story you will get more of a background on what's going on. Without it my story might be a bit confusing to follow.
I've read DR and am about halfway done with DB. The LRT worked great for us re-establishing our communication and at one point I thought we were moving forward from that stage. I really don't want to go back.
I would love to hear from anyone who has advice for me for what I can do here. My W and I are separated but communicating daily and she doesn't mind talking or meeting with me. I initiate most of the meetings but she has initiated a few of them herself. She doesn't mind being around me, in fact lately we've been having fun with eachother. This might have been because she was under the impression I was okay with her A. Ever since I've told her that continuing the A could push me away it seems like we're back to a somewhat uncomfortable R. I think it's because she thought my feelings for her were only plutonic and now she knows I still want to work on our M she doesn't want to give me false hope.
