I keep thinking about FG's words, "It is my time to shine" I contemplate that and think what I need to do to shine. I need to make a major 180 in what I am doing. I am insistant that the house will not be sold just yet but maybe to shine I need to list it once I get back in a week. Show H that I am willing to meet him in the middle rather than insist he continue to pay a mortgage HE can't afford. I love him no matter what has happened and while I don't want to make life super easy for him I also don't want to be Queen B about it.

The kids and I can stay here in our town and rent a smaller less expensive home that H can more reasonably afford and then possibly still be able to get his own place, unlikely but you never know. In staying here in our town the kids can continue at their school and keep their friends and I have 2 great p/t jobs that I truly enjoy and don't want to leave.

On the other hand I look at this list the free family attorney at the court hosue yesterday gave me and I could by the look sof things nail him to the wall but I don't have it in me to do that to him, anyon else probably but not him. At the same time I keep hearing from folks, "you have to think of the kids" or "he is only ocncerned with himself and not the kids" and other common things.

Yes I will enjoy my trip but will be thinking this situation over the entire time I am gone.


Both 35
T 19/M 15 years
S8/D5
It's over bomb/ILYBNILWY 12-22-07

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