What feelings/thoughts do each of the following words invoke in you? What would the associated body language look like? What would associated conversations sound and feel like?
Maybe you need to go dark, use the LRT.
Maybe your 'darkness' still involves communication....which of these thoughts should you keep in mind?
Fixer is going to be my solution buddies, he said something about asking you for a thread so we can talk?????
Michael
m 12 years both, second marriage,she has 2 boys 26 & 20 Youngest has been an issue this past year w/ drugs, drinking and stealing from us, both Wife has not forgiven me for past issues I have forgiven wife though for hers She can't get past them. Please
I'd say at this moment of the morning I feel a bit down...Not sure how to describe, sometimes an interaction leaves me this way
However, when I interact with her or just as important family/people she knows, I am always in a cheerful, happy, calm, confident mood...simultaneously listening more and talking less.
If anyone is a speck like me, you need to be careful that your limited time doesn't make your mind race and thus the interaction becomes chaotic.
I also think that at any given time, one would feel a lot of those. For me, it's all about working on being positive, and thus generally I am cheerful, happy, confident, unavailable(to everyone but WAW),
Nothing works better than the LRT. Nothing. When you stop caring, or seeming to care, their ego gets caught up. Maybe not their hearts, but definently their ego. I remember clearly even in the early stages of the LRT she called me critisizing me for not chasing enough. Incredible huh?
Me: 47 Pet: Kind labrador, 12 years old. Best Friend anybody could have.
Divorce final 12/07/07 No Kids
It is no longer about the divorce or about her. It's all about how I live my life now.
Well with 5D involved, I get some contact...working to make each contact as positive as possible, just be the new me, and don't backslide...she sees it, consistency and patience. She knows I care. Maybe that plays a little against me...for me...who knows...just do what is right and be the new me.
I've decided to go dark as of midnight tonight. I have to be strong and not backslide. I have a D6 so we will still have contact. I just won't be initiating any of it
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*