Not that i give the best advice, but i just have a few suggestions for you. First great move by talking to your lawyer on monday. Over the weekend, take time to write down your questions (I know this is a no brainer for someone like you). Discuss them with your lawyer.
I see in your heart, I know you don't want to rock the boat, and bring more drama and anger into you whole situation. Listen to your heart, then double check with your head. I personally would not want to meet ow, but i understand you want to know her because of your children. Any protective mother would do the same think. And good for you. Speak with you lawyer about this also. I also would not meet her alone. Bring some one else along, a neutral party for i feel she may say to H that you said awful things about her or accused her of xyz. You can meet at a local coffee shop and just have your friend near by. OW does not even have to know about them. Anyway you will need some one afterwards anyway. Or maybe even meet at your lawyers office. If i had children i would do the same thing you want to do.
Jenny its respect on both sides, he also needs to respect your wishes, like you are trying to respect his. See for me, i don't right now have much respect for H since he does not have any for me. Like this am, i found a recipt near his wallet for $125 dinner at a restaurant in phiadelphia from last weekend. Now I asked and he told me ow was not going, My h is a disrespectful, uncaring cold liar. He lied right to my face when i asked him.
Write it out, on paper on cookies (lol) to us, If you get a chance pop over to my thread, my mom sent me such a beautiful card i put on my stitch, read the words, they got down into my soul, i know you will feel the same.
Hugs and love Bear
Me 42-Him 40 T20yrs Married 16yrs 2/06 H- "not sure if i want to be married anymore" 6/07 H-"I'm not happy" 9/07 Admits affair & OW 12/08 I moved out 12/09 still waiting for divorce
