Still Confused - Just not as fresh

[Snow White]

I am not purposely not talking to him, but if I do not initiate phone calls or even talking the talking may be few and far between. At first when i tried this as a 180 back in January I saw positive results, but I have actually come to the conclusion that this was prior to my contact with OW and H got concerned about what I was "up to" whenever I was out of contact with him for awhile. Now he doesn't really seem to care.

Question was your wife clear that this is what you were doing because at the point when my H is initiating contact after we have not spoken most of the evening it is very hard to not have a relationship talk or just go with the flow.