Well, that all sounds a lot better to me. I know that a lot of DBers believe in hiding your feelings. I don't. I think it is important to let him know what is important to you. After my H's affair, I had nightmares for months about him and OW. I needed to be able to tell him of my fears, and I needed his reassurance. I believe that it is essential to the healing process. And likewise, I needed to know about the things I did that hurt his feelings. We are very poor mind-readers. It is a skill not worth honing.
