How do I begin...#2

[MichelleLT]

I think he NEEDS to be more independent. He pursued before but I guess once I started doing all the work he backed off and let me.

That's a good observation and something you have control over.

Usually on Thursdays we get together and watch Lost...but I am not going to call him tonight. We'll see if he calls me. I am betting that he won't. He will just say he figured if I wanted to come over I would have called. That's what he does...always puts it back on me.

While I agree it's good to have low expectations - i.e. that he won't initiate contact much - I think you are predicting a negative outcome. Be careful not to let your prediction influence your behavior and thus become reality.

I hope you feel better soon! Take care of yourself.