Hanging in there....

[MichelleLT]

I think your approach may be: I will not be part of your R with OW. So long as that is going on, we cannot work on our R/M. Please tell her to stop contacting me or we need to change my phone number. I am not going to file for D yet, but my patience is not infinite.

I'm just shooting from the hip here as I cannot predict how your H will react.

Hope that gives you some ideas.