{{{FaithfulH}}}

It is good to hear from you my friend! \:\) Can I forgive you? Thats a trick question huh? Of course I can. But perhaps not the next time!! I was only 2 hours away!!! \:o It's good to read you and your lovely wife are doing great!

Cagz, Thanks sweetie for dropping by. I agree with your $5.00. I did alot of sorting of thougths last night.

Rich is a manipulator. He manipulates with is quiet ways. He's not a loud person at all. He's the kind that could truly convince you the sky is purple. His big brown eyes will puddle with a tear....

Our conversation the other night confimed many things to me. The simple fact that his excuses for leaving our marriage, our home and our future are ludicrous!

I flirted
I didn't listen
I was disrespectful??

It's all blaming me. Nothing was his fault. The domino effect means nothing. I did those things long AFTER he dropped the bomb. Hell, I didn't even do those things when I found out he was sneaking off to NYC to meet up with the woman we met at his High School reunion 2 years prior to his leaving. I became a better more caring wife....he mistreated my forgiveness and kindness.

Rich is a creature of habit. His patterns remain the same. With his first wife. With me. His families patterns remain the same. With his first wife. With me.

This tells me that we will remain the same unless someone actually puts their foot down and breaks the chain.

Epiphany. It does not matter if we sell this house or not. It eventually is going anyway. Do it now, break the chain, I gain my independance of him, he remains miserably stuck by himself. Then and only then will he be able to understand the cause and effect cycle. This does not mean I will not be around, it just means he will not be able to control me. He needs to control himself.

I combined the two emails I sent to him. I again stressed to him that I mean business. His words on the phone to me were nothing but words. The motions will be filed unless I receive something mor substantial than words. He needs to do the right thing. If he wants to work on "us" then I should not be put into this position right? He should be able to do the right thing without this happening.

I need out of this cycle. I can have my own place and not deal with his wishy washy ways of not facing up to his responsibilites. Let his mother deal with it. I DO NOT HAVE TO.

It will not change the course of what will happen. It will set the course for what needs to happen.

Time will tell if he is sincere or not. I am ok either way.

Hugs!

Jeanette

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