Thank you to all of you for your thoughts and comments. For some reason, I think I am okay with getting the papers at work. It is unusual for our lobby to be as empty as it was. There was only the security guard at the desk and the process(?) server. I guess He was removing the public from what could have been an otherwise humiliating experience. In fact, I pretty much didn't notice if others were around and I thanked the server as he gave me the papers. I wonder if he gets many people telling him "thanks". LOL!
ANM I would go with your "instincts" about your H. I know that many people think that we are not thinking clearly about listening to that voice that says "wait" but honestly, they don't have to live our lives. We have to live with our decisions. I would only encourage myself and others in similar situations to live a life God wants us to lead, i.e. something that we can be happy with when we meet Him and He can say to us that "we are a good and faithful servant". I do not want to be absorbed in misery while my W determines what it is she should do in her life.
I think there are several people on this board that believe that I think they have made wrong choices and that cannot be further from the truth. I make no judgments about them. I only hope for them what they hope for me; that we lead a fulfilling life and do not make choices that they would be disappointed in later in life. But it is their decision just like this is mine.
Punk Buddy, thanks for yesterday. You are an incredible person!
Mishka Thank you so much for sharing about Esther, the analysis by your bible study friends and what it could mean. I am overwhelmed that this many people in my life would have discussed the same story on the same 24 hour period!
And your prayers were answered because I do feel so much better today. I do not feel hopeless at all. I feel like this is simply part of the journey and that it can either make me a better person or I can wallow in self pity. I know that the latter will not do any good for me or my babies (or for my W either).
Trying to be the "lighthouse" for her.
PH Thank you for this and for your e-mail. It means a lot to me.
FaithfulH At a gas station? Did he offer to clean your windows and fill up your tires at the same time?
Thanks for asking God to show me. I seriously am pretty dense at times.
I want to add that your post is timely since you had received S & D papers yet you and your bride restored your M. Thank you God!
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God