She feels that coming back home would feel like a "failure to execute her plan" that she had been cooking up over the past year or so. I said, yeah, I can see that, especially based on how we were when you left. Of course you have to realize things have changed between us now, and you would not be coming back to the same situation....she knows that, and that's the part that makes her want to come home, but "the past" makes her 2nd-guess her decision.
I told her she thinks too much!
this indecision thing is the same with my W. says she wants to work on the marrage but if she does make a move she retreats as its " scary". I know exacly the pain you feel when she says stuff like that, if your outsides cool or not. there gets to be a " what about me? when is it my turn?" feeling. Im glad you told her you wouldn't wait for ever. i realise that like myself you probably will ( incert weak laugh) but they cant know that
