Firstly, my initial reaction to the 2nd email, was as the moderator said..blimey I would kill to get a letter like that! I was jealous! So well done, and as others say above, this is your chance now..dont slip back into old patterns, be careful how you respond, carry on as he said being a good person, try and be compassionate, kind and to listen to him mostly. And you got an apology! Thats amazing. I thikn you shouldnt see this as a hard day, see it as an amazing day !!!! Your WAS just said you were a lovely person and apologised for hurting you! We're all queing up round here to hear that.
Secondly...Amy and BND, I think your posts border on abusive. Amy particularly, I felt you are projecting your own frustration rather unfairly. Clearly, Dar wouldnt win first prize at the DB Olympics, but shes trying! I think you proved my point when you said:
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Meantime, don't listen to me. I'm really just screaming at myself for having done the same damn things I sometimes see you doing.
Thats projection.
Anyway..remember what our mothers taught us, if you cant say anything nice, dont say anything at all! Constructive critiscism wins the day. I havent ever commented like this before, but I just thuoght you guys are taking it a bit far on this thread.
So Dar..go home, DANCE around the living room!!! Sing with your D! Eat chocolate! Congratulate yourself! And then start worrying about your H and hoping he will get the help he needs (but only he can do that, you cant tell him to). If he does call you, then let him talk and all that. I'm happy that he has opened up to you. Dont blow it at the last hurdle girl !! We are all watching..
Ali xx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
