I'm going to focus on other goals for ME part 5!!!

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Hey You,

I'm really sorry that I didn't call last night. I was so beside myself not knowing what to do about things that I kind of had a little breakdown. I still haven't made my decision about the job, the money would be great, but at the same time I know things are changing here and the position would end up being temporary. I know that there may be other opportunities but the possibility of me being considered would be difficult without having my degree. Its killing me. I have always thought I was a good person and made good decisions, but lately I just don't know any more. I wish things had played different in our life's. I'm grateful for so many things and at the same time wonder what I did so wrong that things turned out the way they did. I'm really starting to hate myself and that is not a good thing. I'm sooooo sorry that life has played such a bad trick on us. They say things happen for a reason, but this is one lesson I didn't need right now. I'm so tired of being scared, so tired of second guessing myself, so tired of not knowing anything anymore. Its really time for me to make some good decisions.

Sorry to have babbled, just need to right now. Ill give you a call later.

Hi Dar...

So many women here would give their eye teeth to get a letter like this with their H sharing their feelings. My goodness. And--it ALSO means you're doing something right.

Michele talks about ACT AS IF. I'm really glad that you posted here first, because if you ACTED AS IF this was a Dear John ... you would have acted in a way that would not have helped him, and made him start thinking about other things and felt even worse. ACT AS IF you're his best friend and confident...cuz guess what....it looks like you ARE .... and if not...if you ACT AS IF you are...you soon will be with a letter like that.

In her terribly harsh and rude words, Amy gave you great advice.

That email gives you an open path to becoming something to him that no other person can be, and that can never be taken from you.

Be his friend, Dar.

Be worthy of the trust he is placing in you by sharing these feelings he is having. Don't ever give him cause to regret it. That man is depressed. UPLIFT him. He will never forget it. It doesn't mean you have all the answers, or even ANY of them. But it means you listen, and you love, no matter what.

This is a time to listen to what I'm saying to you.
It may be all you end up with but believe me, Dar, the importance of these acts - when done from the heart - the good that comes from them - may never be revealed in this life but I believe they store up treasures in the only place that really matters anyway; heaven.

This is your chance to uplift him. Speak life.



Rudeness is terrible and hurtful. It also hurts with gentler words like BNDs telling you that you have the wrong focus.

But she speaks it out of love. Actually, they both probably do.

They have been there. They want to save you from it. Like I said many women on this board would kill for a letter like that. And they don't want to see you blow it. You are at a crucial point where you could make things great/amazing even...you could win. or you could blow it. They don't want you to blow it.


Sometimes you have to hear some hard words (not rudeness).


Hang in there....and be happy...this letter was good.