Thanks for all the advice guys! Almost Hopeful, thanks for the welcome!
Things can be so complicated. Nicola, you are absolutely right about seperating feelings from my last sitch with this one.
BethM, When he returns I will talk to him about changing the plans without talking to me first.
AG II, I'm with you, being considerate a number of times, doesn't excuse being inconsiderate.
I think the night before thing with his friends, really wasn't terrible, it's just that I'm so concerned with setting proper boundaries now so that I'm not taken for granted or treated badly in the future.
THe way things are currently? Haven't heard from him.
The good news, infact, great news, is that I find myself operating, thinking, feeling, reacting, differently than I did in my last relationship. I feel strong and confident. I feel I deserve a good relationship and am not willing to settle for anything less.
I find that even with him gone for a week I have so many great things to do and people to see, the GAL from the dbusting really worked and now I have a full and sustaining life, with or with a significant romantic relationship. It's a much stronger place to be in.
I have self responsibility now and I like it being this way. I don't have control of other people or events, but I have control of myself. I can rely on myself. I have become my own best friend.
This weekend I'm going on a great camping trip. All the wild flowers are blooming, it's going to be great!
