Beth, I was so quiet about what was going on in my M that everyone was shocked when we finally split. But.....my GFs held my hand, entertained me, fed me and supported me through it all. They are my sisters, as are some of you here.
Interestingly, I'd never really communicated via computer before I found this site. It's amazing to me how close some of us have become and how much we've all grown together over the last few years. I say, we're one hell of a bunch of great people!!!
I love my girlfriends. All of them. The ones who live near, the ones who live far. My baton twirling friends. My mini friends (they know what that means) and my DB friends.
Jill, that is interesting what you said about online communication. I did of course use email but not much. We'd had Internet for years but the kids and Chuck used the pc the most. For a while I'd just get him to print off my emails since I so rarely got any.
When I signed on here I thought it was a "Chat Line" and boy - I'd heard about THOSE! I was afraid. My son helped me with my first post (absolutely true). He assured me that it was safe. (No, I did not let him read it), but there were no secrets between us. He was 19 then and knew everything that was going on with his dad. He spent most of his time with me - we were both in shock. He was a great support. We kept a lot from Ashley because she was only 12.
My girlfriends listened - for hours on end. They consoled. They emailed. They got me to go out. They helped with my kids. I think I wore them out. Then I had all of you to listen and commiserate. And that spared my friends some of the deepest ongoing anguish.
You are all so very important to me. We survived this together. We are a team. No matter what happens in our lives, I will always remember those who were here for me throughout.
agree 100% , I would of been a comlete mess if not for my friends, i love my mom and sis but man they were as heartbroken as me! Cried even more! so thank goodness for my friends calling all the time, coming to see me, some over 2 hrs away, just to do lunch, sit and chat.
My BF B, piled her family in their RV the first Thanksgiving my ex was gone, it had only bee a couple of months and they hi tailed it from OR down to so cal, to spend it w/ me, my S and my parents, It was the best T.day ever. Just being able to hug my BF who I missed so much!
Its amazing like Jill said, how close you can get to those you have never physically met , when you are thrown in a sit like this, and meeting is even better, even when its Beth!!
You guys are the bestest ever!!! and the guys too!!!
GROUP HUG AGAIN!!
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Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
That's funny what you said about Thanksgiving. Canadian Thanksgiving was one month after ex left. I was in SHOCK! My BF lived in British Columbia - a mere 5 hour plane ride away. She invited me to come visit and I went. I was NOT good company. I cried all the time. But she cooked for me and took me shopping and talked me through it - I was there for 10 days! And then came Thanksgiving! Her kids came for dinner. I cried through the entire dinner (anyone want me for a dinner guest?)> I'm not sure what her son thought (he didn't live there at the time) - I was still in total disbelief and would not tell anyone that Chuck had left me!
Funny thing, though, it was during one of those shopping trips that I found Divorce Remedy and it gave me a new focus - saving my marriage! I was not going to sit back and admit it was over. I was going to turn things around. (well, it seemed like a good idea at the time).
So my BF also encouraged me and read through the book with me.
That's what friends are for. "In good times, in bad times, I'll be at your side forever more. That's what friends are for". "Keep smilin', keep shinin', knowin' you can always count on me, for sure - that's what friends are for".
Have you noticed how many threads have broken out in song these days - LOL!
I always wanted to be a Golden Girl - yep, even when I was married. I figured I'd end up in Florida with my girlfriends. But the goofy one? Hmmmm.... well, one should always keep their sense of humour. At least I'd still have one sense left!
I tried to sell my DB books at the yard sale few weeks ago, I sold a lot of books! Weight Loss, Stephen King. P. Cromwell, but nope, not one of my 15 save your marriage books sold!!!
We are going to need a lot more characters for Our Golden DB Girls, what w/ Bethie, and Happy and Friend and all the rest, it would be a darn commune!
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
