It sure isn't easy, is it! What I've learned on this board is that A's tend not to die a sudden death, they take their own sweet time in ending (of course, my W's never did but...) What I learned in my own experience is to concentrate on YOU! Do things to make Sandy feel like a full, talented, wonderful person. You can't do anything about H's antics, nothing...but you can take care of Sandy. I'm talking from experience and the more you do for yourslef and the less you focus on him, the better you will feel and, believe it or not, the better you will DB.I feel for you Sandy, it sucks big time. My W went away for 10 days with her lover to Japan so I can understand what you're feeling right now. My W even phoned me to ask if she could bring me anything back...I'm serious! I almost said "bring me back OP's head in a box" but I didn't, it wouldn't have helped and what the heck would I do with a head anyway, it just wouldn't fit in the china cabinet and, at some point, it would start to smell... Feel better, you will ya know!
Feel better, you will ya know!