Some people just love to complain and even when they get the chance to better themselves or to change their lives, they would rather sit in the sh*t the clean it up.
Moving out of their comfort zone is too scarey!!!
So they stay where they are,motivated only be fear.
I know you are not talking about my sitch or many of the other peeps sitch's.
But DAMN!
You just described my xh
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
Keep making the wrong choices, you may not like the consequeces.
Geeeeesh, I could only wish that Rich had of opened up to me like that in an email, a text, a phone call....hell even smoke signals of that magnitude would have been NICE!
Change the Policy. Allow PM's Free all of us.
Also some new and improved emoticons would be nice!
I'm not ignorning anything being said here at all. But I wanted to share another email he just sent me.
I will make a deposit to your bank before it closes today.
It doesn't look as thought I'm going to make it in time to get D tonight, but I will be there Saturday if that is still ok.
I'm going to talk with my boss later today to see what they really expect out of me as far as time spent here and to also let him know that I am going to be starting school and that I can not mess that up because if I don't get good grades then I will have to pay for it myself and that is something that I will not be able to do. I really think I have been putting a lot more time in this place because I have been trying to make a good impression and at the same time babying people (my sups.) way to much and need for them to start taking more ownership of what is going on.
I will give a call tonight to apologize to D about today and to also talk to you about this stuff, I really do want your input.
Thanks again for being such a good person to me and to D during all this crap. I truly do apologize to you also!
You are right. I need to create my own happiness. It's funny though because I seem to be fine when I'm home, very easy to NC then due to busyness. But it's here at work that I'm at a desk with email and phone 40+hours/week that gets me. I guess I need to dive into my work instead of listening to the voices in my head.
Sorry guys to have upset you all. Not my intention at all. I f'ing know it's not all about me though...I REALLY do! I guess I just took this letter the wrong way. Again, very sorry.
I'll focus elsewhere now on to make you all proud.
Dar, you don't "upset" me personally.
It upsets me to watch you go around and around the same mountain because I know how timeconsuming it is and I know the regret of that. I take it personally simply because I don't want you to waste time or be hard headed like me. I am not saying that you are wasting time though - I do not think you are. We just all "get it" at different points and yours is coming. Meantime, don't listen to me. I'm really just screaming at myself for having done the same damn things I sometimes see you doing. You're fine and will be fine.
BND - Don't patronize me with that "breathe" crap, please. Thanks.
I'm not ignorning anything being said here at all. But I wanted to share another email he just sent me.
I will make a deposit to your bank before it closes today.
It doesn't look as thought I'm going to make it in time to get D tonight, but I will be there Saturday if that is still ok.
I'm going to talk with my boss later today to see what they really expect out of me as far as time spent here and to also let him know that I am going to be starting school and that I can not mess that up because if I don't get good grades then I will have to pay for it myself and that is something that I will not be able to do. I really think I have been putting a lot more time in this place because I have been trying to make a good impression and at the same time babying people (my sups.) way to much and need for them to start taking more ownership of what is going on.
I will give a call tonight to apologize to D about today and to also talk to you about this stuff, I really do want your input.
Thanks again for being such a good person to me and to D during all this crap. I truly do apologize to you also!
That email gives you an open path to becoming something to him that no other person can be, and that can never be taken from you.
Be his friend, Dar.
Be worthy of the trust he is placing in you by sharing these feelings he is having. Don't ever give him cause to regret it. That man is depressed. UPLIFT him. He will never forget it. It doesn't mean you have all the answers, or even ANY of them. But it means you listen, and you love, no matter what.
This is a time to listen to what I'm saying to you. It may be all you end up with but believe me, Dar, the importance of these acts - when done from the heart - the good that comes from them - may never be revealed in this life but I believe they store up treasures in the only place that really matters anyway; heaven.
I'll focus elsewhere now on to make you all proud.
No Dar. Focus {or work on GAL} to make yourself proud. That is truly what this is about. Pride in yourself.
*hugs*
~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
