Poll on Honesty

[Just_Me]

I'm struggling a little with the concept of "honesty", even though it should be easy.

There is honesty in which you don't even need to be asked a question before you are "honest" (ie "whew! Your breath stinks!" or "I wouldn't wear those pants, they make your ass look big" or "I don't feel good about our relationship right now")

There is honesty where you answer questions posed to you in an honest manner, but don't volunteer what's on your mind if you don't feel it's important.

I guess I'm more for the latter form of honesty. I actually don't want the kind of honesty where every time my spouse's emotions wax and wane that are hear about it. I really don't even want to hear that she doesn't like my shirt. Honesty, like most anything else, can be taken to extremes as fig pointed out with her husband's brand of "honesty". I can't imagine, though, that anyone would say, "I want my spouse to lie to me all the time about everything."