Well, here I am, waiting for the end, which will come sometime in June if H has his way. Can't really stop a D here in this no-fault state of Washington.
I believe that once the D ball starts rolling, it is very rare for it to stop. I don't have much hope of saving my M and I just need to realize that I will be ok again someday. The pain is debilitating right now.
Kimmie, Most of us here can guarantee that you'll be better than OK!!! A lot of us want to thank our X's for Ding us, if you can believe it. Unfortunately, it's a painful process to get to this point.
Was for me also. Even in Fault states that ball is extreemly difficult to stop.
My L was honest and offered to slow it down a few weeks but that is akin to an expensive speed bump.
When the better days do come and they will you will not take them for granted. I had what some call a few false dawns or I called (in stock market terms) the dead cat bounce. Whereas things start to get better then return to the pit.
Even then Do not despair you will climb out.
"All I want is a weeks pay for a day's work" Steve Martin
I saw my lawyer yesterday to give him my financial records and he said he would get more spousal maintenance for me.
He also asked if reconciliation was possible, and I said on my part it was, but not H's. He said it would slow down the process a bit, but not stop it, so I told him to just let H have his D.
I requested a brand new last name in my petition, something that I just picked out of the air because I liked the sound of it. That way, I don't have H's last name as an albatross around my neck. It's my way of really starting fresh.
Screw H, his D18, and his piece of sh!t single mom with two kids. He wanted "calm in his remaining years". Ha! He can now choke on it.
