I'm going to focus on other goals for ME part 5!!!

[AliSuddenly]

Oh dear Dar, sorry you got that at work, it sounds very sad for him. And uh...no, I dont. A dear John letter is one left on the table, when the person has left. And isnt coming back. He said "I'll give you a call later"... so, um, theres more to say ?? Not quite the same thing I think? He sounds very confused.

He says some really significant stuff..like he was beside himself, that he had a little breakdown, that its "killing" him, that lately he doesnt know if he is a good person, that he hates himself ! Theres an awful lot of bad stuff in such a short email, its completely negative and reproachful and he sounds very lost and in a bad way mentally. Is that what you thought?

I dont know whats going on with your H but he sounds depressed for sure. Is he getting any help with that? I think you should seriously not put any pressure on him right now and no R talks, just be there for him IF he contacts you. But then he ends it with the realisation that he has to make some good decisions. So I dont know what he means by that, but as he said he will call you, maybe you will find out some more.

Did you reply?? I wouldnt say much if you do, maybe, "Thanks for emailing me, no need to apologise for babbling on, you werent and besides I am always here for you. I'll speak to you later then if you call."

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