Heather - It is so difficult to understand why someone does not have the same desire at perserving an M as the LBS. Dont waste your energy trying. When I talk with my mom, who was also a WAS, she too trys to figure my W out. I just tell her that it is not worth the effort because I dont think even my W knows.
As for the perception that there are more men walking away, I dont know if that is the case. The statistics indicate that 2 out of every 3 divorces are filed by women. Some of those who filed may be the LBS (like myself), however, I suspect that most D's are probably filed by the WAS.
I guess I have to look at your situation as not all that bad because your H is filing legal separation. That means that he is not necessarily done with the M in his mind. Do you know why he did not file for a D? It could be that a legal separation is something he is doing so as to feel not so guilty in dating. I have not read any other stories here where a legal separation was done. It could be he is doing it for just financial reasons now.
And yes, you cant ream him with any issues on your mind now. That is what this forum is for.
