Try not to fight her. Its a bit of a balancing act between protecting yourself and your kids, but also supporting your wife if and when she makes a decision to separate. I know its a bit radical to think that you would support that decision, but you either support it or fight it.
Here is a picture for you. A bull-fighter standing in the ring with his cape. As the bull charges him, he grabs the bull by the horns and tries to wrestle the bull to the ground. (Its messy) OR... As the bull charges him he smoothly turns his body to the side so that the bull charges past him (no inujury to the bull-fighter).
Its like you can fight the fight, by actually letting the anger and pain just brush past you. Its happening but you are in control of the situation. It doesnt leave you an exhausted bloody mess.
I promise promise promise that you are going to be OK. Better than OK you will survive and be stronger and life will be good again.
Not sure if the bull-fighter analogy helps. Let me know if you can draw a deeper analogy out of it!
