Scripture and Faith

[mishka422]

MMF - I'm so sorry she had you served at work. My H did the same thing. Unfortunately that is the only place they can be sure they will find you between specific hours so there you have it.

I am completely amazed by your story about the stories you picked for your bible study. Esther was the subject of our women's bible study last night! I was not well versed in her story before last night. We were talking about there being no coincidences in life, only God directed occurences that we naively chalk up to coincidence out of our own lack of faithfulness.

That 3 people who know you had studies in or were thinking on the story of Esther on the same day HAS to mean something. Esther was put in a prominent place in order to save the Jews from being annihalated by Haman. Is it possible that God may be showing you that He is putting someone in your wife's life or yours to intercede in some way to save your marriage? It's just a thought on my part but THERE ARE NO COINCIDENCES so something is definitely going on here. God is sending you a sign and now you need to interpret it.

I pray that you can quickly come to peace with your wife's decision to file. Like you said, you knew she was going to have to see this through to feel like she was taking control of her life.

Take care of you and your kids. W will have to deal with the consequences of her actions at some point. Let's hope it's sooner than later for both of your sakes.

[plentyhope]

MMF, I am so sorry to hear your D news. How horrible to be served in public. It's wonderful that you are able to see hope even in this situation. God bless you, my friend!
((((MMF))))

[FaithfulH]

MMF,

Sorry to hear about the D papers! I was served both the Separation and the D papers in a more private setting....the Marshall allowed me to meet him at a gas station...of all places. Regardless it was painful....but, you know that God works ALL things together for good for those who are called according to His purpose. I am praying that He shows you that good quickly....

[missmyfriend]

Thank you to all of you for your thoughts and comments. For some reason, I think I am okay with getting the papers at work. It is unusual for our lobby to be as empty as it was. There was only the security guard at the desk and the process(?) server. I guess He was removing the public from what could have been an otherwise humiliating experience. In fact, I pretty much didn't notice if others were around and I thanked the server as he gave me the papers. I wonder if he gets many people telling him "thanks". LOL!



ANM
I would go with your "instincts" about your H. I know that many people think that we are not thinking clearly about listening to that voice that says "wait" but honestly, they don't have to live our lives. We have to live with our decisions. I would only encourage myself and others in similar situations to live a life God wants us to lead, i.e. something that we can be happy with when we meet Him and He can say to us that "we are a good and faithful servant". I do not want to be absorbed in misery while my W determines what it is she should do in her life.

I think there are several people on this board that believe that I think they have made wrong choices and that cannot be further from the truth. I make no judgments about them. I only hope for them what they hope for me; that we lead a fulfilling life and do not make choices that they would be disappointed in later in life. But it is their decision just like this is mine.

Punk
Buddy, thanks for yesterday. You are an incredible person!

Mishka
Thank you so much for sharing about Esther, the analysis by your bible study friends and what it could mean. I am overwhelmed that this many people in my life would have discussed the same story on the same 24 hour period!

And your prayers were answered because I do feel so much better today. I do not feel hopeless at all. I feel like this is simply part of the journey and that it can either make me a better person or I can wallow in self pity. I know that the latter will not do any good for me or my babies (or for my W either).

Trying to be the "lighthouse" for her.

PH
Thank you for this and for your e-mail. It means a lot to me.

FaithfulH
At a gas station? Did he offer to clean your windows and fill up your tires at the same time?

Thanks for asking God to show me. I seriously am pretty dense at times.

I want to add that your post is timely since you had received S & D papers yet you and your bride restored your M. Thank you God!

[Cinderellaman]

Sweety, I'm so sorry.........sending you love and many many (((((((((hugs))))))))))
Keep praying that God shows you your path in life....Much love to you xxx

[missmyfriend]

Cinders, thank you! I do have a lot of blessings in my life. You are one of them. And I am still fortunate for every day I spent with my W. It may or may not be over. It is not up to me.

Love ya'