Ya know - my ex still "says" he doesn't blame me, but still can't admit to having any kind of inappropriate relationship with her. Seeing our errors? She's exactly right. He still can't admit he was wrong in anything. Everything he says to me now - lip service.
This is a good point. W doesn't think anything she is doing is 'wrong' in any way. The 'text messaging buddy - married guy' is not a problem to her. The affair 2 years ago, well, it was a 'growth thing she had to go through'. It took a long time for her to admit that the affair was 'wrong' and even now I don't think she has really come to terms with it. She is in denial and is able to 'justify' it even today.
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Take care of you, fix you and see what you could have done differently......and work on that. But make the changes for you, not to "save this marriage"....
Seeing our errors? She's exactly right. He still can't admit he was wrong in anything. Everything he says to me now - lip service.