Further challenging this is that she doesnt say anything to me but I am aware that something has changed in her interaction with me. And sometimes she says something to one of our children.
What has changed in her interaction with you? Glad to hear you're feeling better about your situation, and are still hanging in there.
Hi, PH. I hope things are still going well for you. I am sorry I haven't talked with you in a while. I feel as if I have back slid and don't have much to offer my friends lately. I don't keep a thread on here anymore. I started a solution journal but no one really responds so I am quitting that too. Just wanted you to know I still check on you often.
Sorry for the hijack MMF. I don't have much to add but know that you are helping to keep my faith alive.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Hi ANM, Things are up and down for me. I just got back from vacation and somehow got discouraged by the interaction with my H yesterday when he dropped off our dog. I am grateful that he took such good care of her while I was gone. I think he must be having a hard time himself and might even be upset about the financial issue we have that he still needs to address.
Of course you can offer to your friends - more than you realize. Please drop me a line or two whenever you check on me. It would be an encouragement to me. We all need encouragement from time to time.
How is your Bible Study going? Is that still helping your faith. I know you're having a hard time with your H. I know it's rough and hurtful to see him trying so hard to prove to himself and others that his decision to be with OW is right. Try to remind yourself that this is what he's doing. It's not about you but about his crisis.
Thanks, PH. I see lots of positives in your situation and I am glad. I have to admit it is difficult after almost 4 years to see other people making so many gains in their situation and I am still stuck in the same place with H. Another note, I seem to have backslid and I am growing weary of the financial situation as well as not having a vehicle again. I am tired of doing everything alone.
I will be fine. I do know that I have God watching over me even if I have trouble seeing it sometimes. My bible study was over a couple months ago. The time change is kicking my butt, too. That doesn't help.
Take care and you, too, MMF. I almost forgot that this is your thread.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
Just hearing from you makes your friends feel less alone, even if you don't have an idea about a particular situation.
I know that it has been a long time. I feel for you. It's only been 3 for me, but it seems longer than the 8 good years.
You aren't alone.
I haven't posted to you, but I know from your (awesome,) sig line that I've read a lot of your stuff.
I'm sorry to hear about the dogs, it seem that our dog is like a child when it comes to how we each feel about her. I suppose I am lucky though, I get to keep her.
I think that more people participate in the MLC and surviving forums than the solution journal, judging by the look of the number of posters, so it's less that people aren't interested, but more that they are looking at different forums. A whole lot of people probably didn't know that you moved.
Your friends are still around.
We don't care if you backslide, that's part of this. If I had a nickel for every time I.....
Stick around. It's a good place to be.
Best.
Punkt.
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These are my friends now!
But someday baby... You ain't worry my life anymore
Take away, take away what I don't need, save the good part please. Fade away, fade away.
I was torn as to whether I should post this or not but if it can help anyone (I am not sure how) then here goes:
Last night, I was reading/studying "Experiencing God" for the Men's bible study that I had for this morning (I am a procrastinator even when I enjoy some things, go figure). It was speaking of how we have a tendency to reduce what God can do in our lives. In fact, most of the time we (including me) will say that God will never ask me to do something I can't do. The author gave several bible related examples plus real world personal examples where the only explanation that can be had is that God had a hand in them.
Many times, we limit what can be accomplished if we would trust God more could be done. In fact, if we are able to have things accomplished that is more than we can do, people can see God in action.
Anyway, the study asked for me to provide four examples of assignments God gave people in the bible that were things that were not humanly possible. I didn't want to provide the typical ones (I need to stretch sometimes) so I came up with Samson, David slaying Goliath, Noah (not original) and the story of Esther, who was a beautiful woman who became queen (and Jewish) and was able to save Jewish people from genocide.
I never discussed these answers during the bible study this morning.
Fast forward to around 10am today and I received a call from HR saying there was somebody in Security for me. I had a feeling and I was right that it was someone to serve divorce papers to me. I prayed before I went to meet the server. It still hit me like a ton of bricks to have the realization that it was going to happen. I know that I have maintained that I have always believed she would have to go all the way through with the D before she could ever come back but when reality strikes, you still are not prepared.
I worked for a couple of hours before my boss recommended that I head home. I have been in communication with my friend and mentor that I have talked about. He was speaking with me later this afternoon and mentioned the story of Esther and how God has purposes for people. After he related the story, I was pretty choked up and amazed since I do not consider the story of Esther one of the more common stories of the bible. I told him how I have felt that God has plans for my family and I have had this feeling for a long time that it is not over between me and my wife. I have asked God to please be patient with me as I can be extremely dense and it may take Him to hit me with a 2x4 to know when He is trying to tell me something.
I do believe, although many people would doubt my sanity, that God is telling me to be patient and that He is in control.
On a side note, on the way home from work, in my nice new car was a woman with her children driving a little four door car. On the rear passenger windows, someone had written "Jesus is King" in red window paint.
Yes, He is!
Me:56, W:51 D:26,S:24,S:22 Married:18 Bomb 9/27/06 Separated 11/27/06 Divorced 10/6/08 Leaving it up to God
I told him how I have felt that God has plans for my family and I have had this feeling for a long time that it is not over between me and my wife. I have asked God to please be patient with me as I can be extremely dense and it may take Him to hit me with a 2x4 to know when He is trying to tell me something.
I do believe, although many people would doubt my sanity, that God is telling me to be patient and that He is in control.
I am so sorry that you have to go through this. I know so very well what this feels like. Because I wouldn't answer my door after 10 pm, I was served at work, too. I knew it was coming because H had called me and told me.
I feel the same about God not being done with H and I. Unfortunately, God does have to hit me over the head to get to me sometimes. I can be very thick headed. We are here for you. I am glad you have a mentor to help you through this.
Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.
