Frank...don't forget the thoughts we discussed from Bill. They become unhappy and then come to an illogical conclusion..that the thing closest and most long-lived in their life...is the source of their pain and unhappiness.
Listen to Bill Frank..he ain't blowin' smoke up your skirt. It's easy to lose sight...when you are stuck in the middle. Your in 'blame quicksand' frank and the more you struggle to understand this, the deeper you sink.
No one is saying 'treat her like her dirt'. No one is saying ignore her. No one is saying file.
We're all just saying like DB Chuck....deinvest...for a bit...for a few days...?weeks?..months???...and reinvest in YOU. Sgc says you are not helpless and she is RIGHT...you are not HELPLESS in helping yourself to get healthy. Just STOP.
In your own words, JUST BE. You'll be OK. FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
