thank you. when i tell people she had a victim mentality it means to me that she is playing a marter. she has protraid a person whio takes enjoyment out of certin actions, and now says she was just doing them to make me happy even ewhen she didnt want to. EVERYTHING she feels was aimed to make her feel like less of a person. never mind the pain anyone else is feeling now SHE is the one who has felt the most. my W is a sweet wonderfull person and it was always kind of a running gag on how geat she was to my unrealised screwups. a " o Brian what am i going to do with you" attitue was there i guess.
the problem is my W is aslo daddy's little girl. she IS wonderfull and i love her deeply. but as a self realised man with a lot of things to work on, and a H who addmitts his wife is his best friend,when i did tell my W she was wrong she didnt know how to take it. my friends had no idea of her passive agressivness, only seen her wonderfulness. so now im told from all fronts " Brian you have screwed up a lot sometimes, but you never meant to and now you are takeing full responsibility. but my W says she is workingh on the marrage, but is more going through a MLC then trying to make any efforts, and when she does she zaps me.
take the upcomming weekend I'm so scared about i told her honestly that i wanted to not drink to much so things wouldn't happen that would't if we were sober. but she bulldozed right through me. im not even worth listening to anymore.
and when i say she is creating her own reality its just me basicly saying that the only side she cares about is her. take the gym. her side says I'm ripping on her, while mine says i was inocently saying use something we are paying for. but in her state of mind there is no room for doubt shes right. since I'm the villin then i MUST be tying to hurt her. LAdey B I'm trying my damndest not to do anything wrong but i keep slipping further and furthwer into dispair.
