Hi, Neecy. I completely agree with everyone else. Especially this:

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DETACH, AND LET HIM STEW. You have yet to try this for ANY length of time. I think you'd see amazing results, I really do.

Puppy


When my H and I first S'ed, whenever he had the boys, he would call me every half hour or so because he wasn't sure how to handle things with the boys. If it was serious, such as a fever, I would give advice on what to do. If it was anything else, like H complaining that it was too much of a "hassle" having to take S3 grocery shopping with him, I'd simply reply with, "Sorry to hear that. I know this is an adjustment for you. Well I gotta run..."

My point was to show him that I wasn't going to "come to the rescue". He wanted out, he didn't want to work on our M, he chose to leave - physically, mentally, emotionally. So he needed to understand and see the reality of his decision. "GF" was not going to be there to take care of the kids during any part of HIS time with them. The responsibilities of childcare were solely on him, and he had to figure it all out for HIMSELF.

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell