Less contact initiated by you is a very good idea, I think. Think of it as weaning him, gradually letting him go, allowing him to mature and become a bit more independent. It could only do him good, and hopefully he'll begin to pursue you a little more. I know you worry about him, it almost wouldn't be right if you didn't, but maybe with less contact from you, you'll start to see more of what you'd like coming from him.
Hope you made it through the day. Get well soon!
Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars. You have to let go at some point in order to move forward. ~ Joseph Campbell
