I am sorry you are hurting so badly right now. You seem to be beating yourself up over something you can't control. You've done the best you could in an impossible situation. I haven't always agreed with your approach, but you have been thoughtful about your choices and have made them with the best interest of your family in mind. No one can ask more of you than that.
Originally Posted By: SirPrizeMe
This is R talk and demands and ultimatims. All absolute no-no's in divorce busting. But in retrospect, it could have saved me a ton of trouble and probably money too, and right now I would be enjoying more time with my kids, one way or the other.
This is like saying "if things were different, they wouldn't be the same." True, but you don't know what the outcome would have been.
Now you get to play the hand you've been dealt. I hope you have a good attorney who will represent you zealously. Your W used the nuclear option right out of the chute. Hopefully your L has dealt with this kind of thing before and has a strategy in mind.
