During our 9+ month seperation h payed the bills and mowed the lawn (even though I asked him to show me how to do it) and on a few occassions handed me wads of cash, even talked about putting in a pool for me and the kids (it was a hot summer and we've since gotten a pool) as well as other small things around the house. H was attentive to me and the kids more during our seperation. H arrived promptly on the evenings he was scheduled to visit the kids and actually spent time with them and then at different times would even spend time with me.
Now h pays the bills and cares for the lawn...gets home a different time each night (I no longer ask when he'll be home) and often when he says he'll be home at 4 he doesn't show up until 5:30 without a word that he'd be coming home later or an appology or reason for why he's 1 1/2 hrs later than he said he would be...of course I don't call and say "where are you" and when he does get home I don't say "where have you been" those were the things that I had done BEFORE ow and BEFORE seperation that he didn't like.
What's my point?
If the 9+ month seperation while I was caring for our two children who at the time were both under 3 is any indicator of what D would be like...I'll take it!!! Trouble is that may have been what D would be like then with HIM deciding the M was over and him having OW. If it's me that decides (or more like points out the fact that) the M is over I'm not so sure it will go that way.
Why do I feel like a prisoner or a child with no control.
