No we didn't make it. XH filed in summer of 2006, we got around to mediating with counsel in December 2006 and D was final July 2007. XH remarried (a woman who worked closely with him for about 6-7 years now) on January 1 this year. He still doesn't say her name to me!
What really took me back, reading your post, was how hard the children took the announcement. Same with us. We did not fight at all, so our S15 (then S12) was totally shocked, took it very, very hard, stiffening up, crying, yelling. I remember it to this day and it still is one of the very few things that makes me want revenge on XH, rather than to let go!
The only thing you can do is take it one day at at time. LIke I said, GALing, being kind, and courteous just makes you a great person and a great role model for the kids, and makes you go to sleep at night feeling comfortable with yourself. These MLCers are totally out of our sphere of influence, so who knows how he'll react. Expectations have to zero...although I am preaching something that I really am bad at pulling off! I personally think the classical DBing techniques (180, last resort, etc.) don't have much meaning in the context of MLC. Not that they can't help you, but I think the MLC spouse is in another reality and generally impervious to what we do or don't do. JMO, of course.
Keep posting. This bb can be a real life saver during this spell.
