Soonerlady, TPaschal, Theotherhalf, imlin, ali suddenly alone, where are you all posting threads at. I can't seem to find you.
Noah,
I am so, so, sorry. I don't even the words to say how much. I know how crushing this is.
I've kind of neglected my own thread lately. Just drive-by postings on threads I keep up with. Went to court for the first time today (H filed D papers April 30, 2007, and served me on June 19, 2007---so it has been dragged out pretty long.)
It was hard. Very hard. H agreed for the first time to go to some counseling. He kinda didn't have a choice, though, as even his attorney hinted that he would look like a putz for not going.
H has been an a**h*l* for the past year, but I'm not giving up. And that's a decision I'm making for ME. Not for him, for ME. I am going to work on ME, on making ME happy, on being a better person, friend, mom, and daughter. I hope that someday I will get the chance to be a better Wife, as well. Hopefully with H, but if not with H, then with someone who will love and appreciate me for who I am.
Don't give up on YOU, Noah. Bombardier50 wrote me something recently, that Saffie once told him. I don't have it memorized so this may not be the exact wording, but it's close.
NEVER FORGET.... 1. You are a good woman. 2. Because you are a good woman, you are standing for your marriage, even in the face of extreme difficulty. 3. Also, because you are a good woman, there will be many honorable men who will see that and want to scoop you up, if it someday comes to pass that your M could not be saved.
Noah, you need to take care of YOU right now. If you are not on an anti-depressant, I urge you to see a doctor ASAP.
My prayers are with you. I will check in on you later. {{{{2ndNoah}}}}
Me:40, xH:41 M:19 T:21 D14, S10, D6 IDLYA bomb:12/22/06 OW bomb (21 yr. old employee):12/23/06 H move out 2/07, OW move in 5/07 D papers served 6/07 D final Nov. 26, 08 :-(