H is having affair after all

[seekpeaceofmind]

How can i DB when she is still around, stand no chance, why can't i accept its over?

I think right now DBing techniques are for you - so that you don't rush into anything while emotions are high, so that you can wait and make your own decisions when you are ready, so that if you still feel you really do want to reconcile you aren't having to cross too many battle lines to do so. I don't know if you are at "last resort" stage or not but, as you've said, right now you just want space for yourself to deal with this new development. That to me is DBing - as opposed to the ranting, raving, attacking stance that a lot people might take if they weren't in DB mode.

It's not over yet - far from it.

(((evie)))