save a spot, will be here at some point

[cat03]

the L visit was the best thing I've done lately, thanks so much everyone for your encouragement, I dont' think I would've gone otherwise!

OT, she did say in court the court *might* make the big debt a joint debt..unless it can be proved (and it can) that those charges were about the ow, gambling, etc.

She gave me *great* input about the house and what to do about his name on it and how I can make it so I'm not tied up to him by the house 'til it sells, she calculated CS and its 230$ more than what H and I talked about. She told me that the difference in CS can be a bargaining chip to "pay off" H towards his share of the house, and that the best thing would be to pay him off in the near future, that way when the house sells I wont have to split 50/50 and give him the bonus of benefiting from the house going up in value and not paying towards mortgage (specially if I want to do improvements on the house, want to sell it, keep it, etc)

She was awesome, didn't push at all to sue, gave me so many choices and told me how it'd play in court *if we were to go to court*, that way I could compare what I'd be asking in mediation and how it would hold in court (also, if he goes to his own lawyer and they try to change his mind and mess up our agreement).

Over all, it'd still be fair to both of us, I'd stay in the house, he gets to pay what he can afford in CS while in a ways I'd be paying him towards his share of the house.

Phew! so glad I went today!!! it's actually an oxymoron though, this whole thing is about breaking up our home, but, if it has to happen at least I will not get shortchanged.