Trying to be patient

[Yoyowife]

I agree with Saffie, do what you are comfortable with.

Personally, I would be afraid that I would show too much emotion in my face, but that may not be a problem for you. If this is your case also, you have a good excuse of not being there because of your rehearsals.

If you think you can hold it together, then just nonchalantly say "Let me carry some of your things out to your car for you." Think of it as moving a friend out of their house.

Again, it is a very personal decision that does not have a "one size fits all" answer.