I have long been a lurker on your thread... your journey has really impressed and moved me...
Ah, potty training... this got me out of lurker mode!?!
Fig's got the right idea there... same as my older son (now 18, and nary a diaper in sight, thank you very much!!).
For him, the kid who had been the first in the crowd at virtually everything, it was totally a control issue. And fortunately, we had the dumb good luck to just go with the flow (so to speak). We were also lucky that his daycare/preschool was cool with it, too. He even told us at around 3 1/2, when we asked him didn't he want to start wearing 'big boy pants', "Girls wear panties, boys wear diapers!!"
It will go fine and fast; and with all that has happened at your house in the last year, not pushing him has likely been a wonderful gift for both of you...
