Amber, don't worry about misspellings, I don’t think “muthafucka” shows up in spell check anyway.
I though very hard about your post and I really don’t think that’s it. Throughout our entire marriage, I have always been very considerate and have always told her, in more ways than one, how beautiful she is and how much I think of her, even when I wasn’t looking for sex!
I’m not saying I’m perfect, after all we were separated and I learned that she was the typical WAW partially because I wasn’t listening, as is so common. I have worked hard on correcting that, and am slowly getting better.
Even when she initiates, it feels like she is thinking that she knows I “need” sex and she will oblige because she loves me, and thinks that me just getting off is satisfying enough. I don’t know how to communicate to her that I really need so much more as she is not receptive to talking about it and she stops me from doing more than, well, pardon the bluntness, just “sticking it in.” (She barely even kisses me anymore, which is extremely painful in and of itself.)