Is there some kind of "rule" that the EX should be able to be there if they want to?
Or do you just leave it up to the kid's wishes?
No, there isn't any rule, I'd think the kids would be happy to see the WAS come to their party, in my case, it will be ackward since all kids will be from my family, and because of the D no one will be happy to see H and he wouldnt' want to be around them anyways, my guess is that he'll show up for a bit to take picts and leave (in the future).
How about you? do you have a big family, will most of the guests be from his family or yours? I think that makes a difference, and also where you hold the party, at a kids' place or your home.
Regardless the stupid way the WAS have behaved, if the kids want them there they should be free to come at least for a bit, I would never want any of my kids to resent me that I didnt' let their dad come to their bday parties
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
