Yes, you do have a life without him, yet you are still dependent upon him to pay bills and you suffer when he does not. Perhaps it is indeed time for you to stand up for yourself. If your statements to him: "I will file a "Motion To Show Cause" along with a "Motion for Temporary Alimony" were merely to gain a reaction from him how will that help your situation? You should be looking for him to do what is right without your statements. That would be a step towards you. What does Jeanette need to do, independent of Rich, to make her life secure?
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I have a sneaking suspicion that he may move back into the house as he is struggling supporting himself. It will be hard if that happens but I can deal. It will be business only.
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Neither do I want to feel like second best. Or last resort. Or he couldn't find anything better. and he's only returning because he's settling.
Given the above two quotes, why would you allow a move back in? Moving back in because he is struggling is a fairly significant worst case scenario. What, if anything, in your dealings with him causes you to trust that he will follow through with anything he has said?
It could very well be time for Jeanette to truly take her independent steps. ~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
