W came back from work yesterday, left the car running and stomped in to get her phone charger. She told me that my parents had been speaking to her parents and was angry with that, she said she was staying at her sisters overnight, she then left and reversed out without looking back at me.
About half hour later she phoned me and told me that she had spoken with her mum and sai her parents did not want any contact. Her parents are absolutely devestated and cannot cope with what is going on, they have even booked a holiday to get away.
She got her sister to leave a message on my dad's phone asking them nicely to leave their parents and that my W and I should be able to sort it out whichever way it goes.
I said to my wife that she is not the person I married and that the person I married was in there somewhere, what is going on, she had changed over the last 6 weeks. She said that she was happy (drugs, drinking, deadbeats and limited future?!?!) she called me a d!ck and asked if I remember the other Sunday (where she gave loads of reasons most are poor really though obviousley not to her). She said that she did not love me and did not want to be with me anymore, that we are getting a divorce and I shoudl accept it and that w can go our seperat ways and she will never hav to see me again. I said why is it so sudden and she said it wasn't for her.
WTF!! there has been no give at all and no change in what she wants (divorce) she will not do anything at all for the marriage or relationship and does not want to. She seems to have gone through all of the emotional stuff and is now 'cool and calculated'
A bad year relationship wise plus others outside pressures and she is going for the jugular mercilessly.
We have been together for a long time and had fantastic times but there is no give at all and doesnt look like there will be any give.
It takes 2 to save a marriage and relationship but there is nothing at all from her corner, I have done my changes and can only focus on me. Its really sad that my W seems to have turned inside out and upside down and doesn't care about anything at all.
I have put my wedding ring back on as I am committed and want to heal our relationship.
I will have to start speaking with her about the divorce stuff and what she wants from the house etc, will also have to adjust the household bills as I pay over twice what she does but 50% is over 1k and she can't afford that.
It looks really bad and hopeless I don't want to give up but what can I do against such a wall?
Me: 30 W: 31 T: 9.5 yrs M: 4 Yrs No Kids, 1 cat Had a bad year Turmoil started 22/Jan/08 Seperated, same house 30/Jan/08 Wanted D: 2/Feb/08 Going downhill and towards D with nothing stopping her!
