Beyond sad -

[minkerman]

Telling her she looks nice is OK. As long as there's no ulterior motive, as in, "hubba-hubba, you look great, baby...let's go get busy!"

The absolute and unbreakable key here is...no matter how much you need to show her you care, how much you want to fix things and make it right...you MUST give her space. It is what she craves. Every time you call her, every time you email her, it is disrespecting her need for space.

It's OK to stay in touch. A quick 2 minute call, no relationship stuff AT ALL, likely won't hurt.

NEVER ask, "when are you coming home?".

NEVER whine or let her see you cry.

NEVER beg for anything.

Start making changes...for YOU. She will notice. Don't tell her, because then she will say "why is he telling me?" Only one reason: To try and get her back because you've changed.

Trust me dude. I have made all of the mistakes I have just mentioned. My friends here have talked me off the ledge, I have done as they say, and now it appears my wife will be returning to our marriage.

I will never make the mistakes that split us up again.

Best of luck to you, we are here to help.