Why do you need to move out? Isn't she the one who wants to end the M? In my case, I moved out because my W was much more able to handle mortgage payments and if it meant my kids could stay in their home then I was willing to leave BUT not until I got a separation agreement. Don't leave until you know your rights to your kids are protected. As far as arguing, what I used to do was just say "I'm not willing to argue with you today" and just kept repeating that. It got bad when I started lashing right back at her in anger. It sure ain't easy but you will get through no matter what. As a friend once said to me about my separation, "just remember, no matter how bad it gets, it will always get better" and she had been through worse hell than me. What helped me was remembering who I wanted to be through this, I wanted to be an honourable person, a person who was there for his kids. My W could be whatever she wanted to be but I was going to be someone who did what was right. Simple as that. It sure helps to be able to look at yourself in the mirror and know you have nothing to be ashamed of. You will find your way through this, we all will!
