I'm going to focus on other goals for ME part 5!!!

[AliSuddenly]

Dar, when things were fragile with my Bf, I invariably waited 7 or 8 hours before replying..that way, he got it late and had to reply to me the next day. So it made him wait, gave him space but also, kept the communication going day by day.

Can you try putting more space between you? Nothing will change I dont think if you dont change. You seem to be stuck in a pattern of behaviour with each other..have you noticed that? Just my outsdiers perspective. If what your doing isnt working, change tack, as the good book says!

Sounds like your D realised there was something wrong in this girls behaviour as she was upset enough to tell you about it. Its great she did and you were able to nip it in the bud after 3 occassions. Have you spoken to your D to say that this girl may be a bit unhappy and thats why shes behaving oddly and its not your D fault?

Ali