seek, I'm here for support for you, but unable to post anything positive at this time that would help, i'm far to cynical atm.
I understand where your at and am so pleased that my friend's post on my thread helped you. I was questioning myself and hated myself b/c i still want h back after all he has done, just like you. We are strong women, many would have floundered before now. It is only through this sight that i have the strength to be where i am today when my gut is to kill, shout, be enraged etc etc.
Holly on my thread said i have 18 mths/2 yrs ahead of me of this. Her H returned after that time, maybe by then we may have moved on, maybe not.
Keep strong, focus on you. Maybe a friendly, light text to H to see how he's doing and if he's well. He has responded well in the past to your txts.
x evie
P/A confirmed 5/03/08
03/08 H said affair over, I dont think it is, h still doesn't want marriage
T: 13 M: 8 D:20 & 17 from Previous M S: 8 & 4 BS: May 07 ILYBNILWY S: 13/10/07