Blunt is good (BTW, I meant to write "muthafuka" on your thread but spelled it wrong and it looks really obscene when I re-read it..)
Yes, we have MB'ed together. It always winds up as full on sex which is fine by us both. I really don't think it's about the MB, just that the MB is the "easy way" for him to "get some" and it's become an unhealthy pattern with him/us.
It's anywhere from fair to mind blowing when we actually do have sex. It's just the leading up to it that's the sticking point.
I'm trying to "undo" the pattern like I read about in The Sex Starved Wife book by doing the opposite of what I normally do. What I normally do would be to cave and initiate with him so it's what he fully expects me to do. I'm doing the opposite and hopefully he'll step up to the plate and start being more sexually aggressive to start things off and get comfortable being more assertive that way. I dunno - guess that's why I'm here, LOL!
