i am just a little worried. as my friend put it its like im a cat in a cornner. you hit it enough it will lash back. i want my marrage to work but i am getting bashed every time either agressivly or now this passive " im just kidding" bashing. in a way it hurts more because she tell me its just a joke so i cant get mad, and besides if i get mad i will just be plasying into her steryotyp of me anywya. io cant win right now. with this 3 day weekend together coming up i am nervious as hell. ST P day involves drinking and i dont want her...or myself...to say ANYTHING that wouldn't be said if we were sober.