I meant to say post not "thread." Sorry. But here is one of them:
"I am now seriously wanting to go dark, the only problem is my Daughter is with WAW. I want to call every night to tell my little girl I love her and good night but I feel it is giving W some sort of security. I will be ok with not talking to my daughter for a couple of days (for the sake of my marriage) but I am concerned that W will view this negatively."
I am trying to give her space so last night I did not call, when W called I didn't anwser, first thing this morning she called again and said "Why didn't you call our daughter and tell her goodnight last night?" (she sounded a little mad, which could be a good thing I don't know) I told her I was just giving her space and she said I told you I don't care if you call to talk to HER (daughter).
The MC said our problems are very common. Prob. with family, money, arguing, and etc.. He said they are every day problems we just need to figure our a better way to deal with them. We need to communicate better, W needs to learn to let go of the past (not verbatam here), I need to chill out and quit being so pushy for anwsers and be more patient (which is exactly how I was before we seperated.) He said he doesn't think W knows what she wants and I just need to be patient and give her all the space and time she needs. Keep in mind these were only assesment sessions. I am waiting on W to decide if she wants to start the real MC. W and I talked on the phone today. She wanted to tell me that she had overdrafted one of our accounts and wanted to let me know that she was taking care of it. Of course I already knew, but I threw her a curve ball by not calling her and raising cain about her doing that again. We never talk about our M or R and I don't think I should be the one to bring it up, but she drops either alot of hints or she is not thinking about what she is saying and I can't figure out which it is. Ex: Earlier she said "If I knew you were going to that part of town today I would have given you my engagement ring to stop it by and have it's annual inspection. I need to go do it but I just never get out there." She throws these future comments to me a lot but I just laugh and be happy and get out of them as quickly as possible. How can a person not know if theylove someone, not know if they want a divorce, yet still talk about their future togehter?
