Back on the Roller Coaster - OW still around

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Wow, what a wonderful exchange with H. Try to let him bring up the R talks, don't be surprised if he takes a step back. At least now you know H is interested in coming back home!! Take it slow, my coach recommended a period of dating prior to W moving back home. Maybe talk with H and come up with a plan, two months of dating, more overnight stays, bringing stuff over slowly. I would hold off on what else you want besides H moving back home, use your DB skills, sit down with H and set some goals, small ones and build on them, let H set some for you also.

I think it's ok to let down our defenses with our kids at times, it's hard to be brave and hold it together all the time.

I don't know if you are piecing yet or not but you're very close. The real work will come when H does move back home. Read some of the posts there to get an idea of what to do.

Don't try to go too fast or push H to progress faster, it has to happen at his pace. I understand about your hesitation about if H will backslide again, but you can't keep up the wall, you have to open up to H.

S26 isn't the baby, we have a D19, she's the baby. I told my W that S moving out is ok, he's not signing a lease or moving into an apartment, it's a house. If things don't work out he can always come home, nothing lost. The mortgage isn't in his name.

Good luck and keep me posted.

Mike