You're facing a similar version of what FIB is facing now. His wife is a bit more violently vocal right now, but you're both being put through the wringer, just in different ways.
The danger here of course is that, when faced with such an onslaught (whether explicit or implicit), you begin to buy in to the bs that's being flung around. FIB can't afford to do that now, and neither can you. You start to buy in to that crap and the next thing you know you're making them out to be the hero in this mess.
You were better off with the anger quite frankly.
The Divorce Care group sounds like a really good idea. You NEED another person who can relate to what you're dealing with and who is physically available. Trust me, we have your back from a distance.
I hate cliches. Just wanted to be clear on that before I fling one at you regarding the purchase of the book. Every truly significant journey in your life begins by taking the first step. Just remember, when it comes to matters of faith, the operative word there is "faith."
Put the relationship to rest and work in the areas that you CAN make a difference in. I'm thinking a) a whole and healthy Frank, b) two wonderful girls who know he loves them, and c) taking care of business the way Frank knows how. Hopefully you find some time to send this entire matter to God as well (that would be d)).
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
